Hi I’m Pari

Hi! I’m Pari: a Transformational Coach and a Rapid Transformational Practitioner, a wife, sister, daughter, and a friend.  
Over many years, I have transformed my own life; creating one that is meaningful, rewarding and purposeful... but this wasn’t always the case.

i DIDN’T FEEL SAFE IN MY BODY.

I didn’t feel safe in my body and as a result, my day-to-day was a rollercoaster of emotions that took the driver seat, and I lost control of rational and logical thinking. My body and my mind were extremely sensitive to interactions I perceived as threatening, which caused it to shut down. I became my own roadblock: ceasing progression by creating stop signs as a way to protect myself, not realising the hinderance instead.

aLL I WANTED TO DO WAS VEG OUT ON THE SOFA.

All I wanted to do was veg out on the sofa, sleep, watch reality tv shows, and use social media to escape from my own reality. I often avoided situations or people as I took every interaction and disagreement personally. Over time, I became good at spotting different personalities and situations I perceived as threatening, and began avoiding them all together. I analysed everything about the interaction and blamed it all on the individual or circumstances if it didn’t go my way. I was triggered easily, felt incredibly unmotivated, and was a victim of my own circumstances. An endless cycle of burnout perpetuated these feelings, and reality slipped further and further away.

i SACRIFICED MY OWN NEEDS TO PLEASE OTHERS.

Because I didn’t know what I wanted, I sacrificed my own needs to please others. To avoid the feeling of being in trouble or unlikeable, my personality served as the people-pleaser. I overcompensated and did things for others that didn’t serve me, and breached my boundaries to avoid feeling guilty. I was so deep in my own sorrow that I never stopped to question what my needs were.  I felt powerless and blamed situations on other things rather than taking responsibility for myself. 
I was convinced that my story was the truth and the only truth and repeated this story in my head so many times. When I spoke to people, I would tell them that it’s because of my anxiety or my depression, because that was so much easier to blame.

My Journey to Transformation

In the last 14 years in my journey to transformation, I received help from professionals, coaches, and mentors. I discovered that it’s so much more manageable when I connected with people that had my best interest at heart, and when I had a support system to encourage and motivate me along the way.

The journey to transformation was not always smooth sailing or easy, but I made sure that it was not a lonely one, so I created for myself a support system so that it was easier to push through the struggles, resistance, and roadblocks I experienced along the way.

There will be no doubt challenges along the way. but the journey to self discovery and transformation is an experience that we must go through in order to learn and grow.

THRIVE AND GROW

Just like a tree cannot grow without sunlight, the right soil and water, you cannot thrive as the lonely seedling. It is the interconnected webs of support that will allow you to grow to your fullest potential.

my journey

  • Bachelor of Science in Health Promotion

    Bachelor of Science in Health and Safety

    Solution Focus therapy

    Master of Counselling (Present)

    Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) with Marisa Peer

    Healing Trauma and Addiction with Gabor Mate

    Compassionate Inquiry with Gabor Mate